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He made jokes about me and how I “used to be a man,” criticized my writing and activism, and even — the grand offense — used my birth name during arguments. Having to constantly define and explain myself is both exhausting and unfair.I feel like I have to share my entire life story early on — a situation in dating that we’re often told to avoid at the risk of being too overwhelming.
I found early disclosure necessary because we live in a world where trans panic is still justification for devaluing and even harming trans women.
Though we had a ton of chemistry, he couldn’t understand the ways in which he constantly invalidated my identity.
And, to be clear, I don’t need constant validation of my womanhood, but I do need respect — which J wasn't prepared to give.
Being a person of color that floats between the queer world and the straight world adds all the more pressure.
I constantly have to juggle other people’s hangups around gender, sexuality, and race simultaneously.
A little under a year from now, I'll be the same age as 25-year-old India Clarke, a recent victim of trans killings.
One of my biggest fears is becoming another murder statistic: someone for the media to posthumously misgender, leading the public to believe that I somehow deserved to have my life taken away.In the wake of these tragedies, I try to to nix my own feelings of dread and shame as soon as I meet a person.Now I typically come out via text message or on my online profiles.Despite one pervasive misconception that transgender people transition for the approval or acceptance of future sexual partners, when I transitioned there was nothing about the forthcoming experience that assured me I would be seen as desirable. But when you’re trans, it’s hard in a completely different way.I didn’t know if I’d ever have the chance to be loved. It’s all too easy to internalize the assumptions that we are rudimentary facsimiles of the people we actually want to be, or that we take on a lifestyle that’s all about mutilating our “God-given, natural” bodies.He was pretty homophobic and transphobic when I originally met him, which he attributed to his upbringing.