It all really comes down to compatibility: If feeling constantly challenged to be "on your game" and connecting over deep discussions is your thing, you need to connect with a partner who gives you that.
It’s not so much formal education that matters here as it is your ability to relate and build off one another.If you have no meeting of the minds, it can be tough navigating life's little curveballs together, unless there is one mutually agreed-upon dominant partner who makes the decisions, eliminating the need for debate over every major event.Other women, however, crave the opposite in a partner.” In fact, it’s a great idea to have a lot of thought-provoking questions on hand—you may never have to suffer through a boring date again.You both might be brilliant experts in your respective career fields, but having an intellectual relationship doesn’t mean boring each other with stories about work all day. In fact, as Zach Brittle tells readers, shared meaning is the hallmark of a happy relationship.Even though your goals may be very different, they should be on the same scale.
For example, if your significant other is pursuing a Ph. in history and can’t get his conversation out of the Middle Ages whereas you are just trying to finish the series, you might have a red flag.
I mean, For my husband and me, exploring our intellectual compatibility was a big part of our dating relationship.
Aside from being attracted to one another and sharing the same values, we wanted to know that we could daydream together and have shared pursuits.
"I need my man to be less smart than me," says one 27-year-old woman, who jokingly says she thinks the smarter partner controls the relationship.
"If he can outsmart me, then he could squash my ability to sneak things under his nose!
In fact, studies show that intellectual compatibility in a relationship is a huge indicator of long-term success and, eventually, happiness in marriage.