Single mom dating divorced dad

24-Jun-2019 13:46 by 2 Comments

Single mom dating divorced dad

A sleeping child has a way of appearing out of thin air -- just when you're cursing out his dad.

It's easy to fake it electronically."It's absolutely critical that you take the high road and don't bad-mouth your ex in front of the kids," says Susan Bartell, Psy D, author of Mommy or Daddy: Whose Side Am I On?

No matter what the latest study said about the damaging effects of a broken home, I tried to remember that my boys and I were much more than a statistic -- and that our home wasn't broken.

"Children grow up fine as long as parents love them and raise them thoughtfully," says Dr. "You need to be optimistic."After being a single mom for three years, I discovered things about myself I'd never had the opportunity to find out when I was married: I was independent and accomplished, and I was able to run a household, bring home a paycheck, and take excellent care of my kids.

We were angry at each other, and, let's face it, looking for ways to hurt each other.

But no matter how right I felt I was, deep down in my heart I knew: Being in constant fight mode was horrible for my kids, and it was making me even more miserable.

Though I had always paid lip service to the "It takes a village" idea, it turned out that, while there might have been some "village" people out there, we had been too wrapped up in our own lives to get to know them. I was driving through a bad snowstorm with my little boys. I decided to check in every night with another single mom.

Then I made a conscious effort to invite friends over for dinner, ask a neighbor to help me move my couch, and chat with the other moms at drop-off.

When my kids and I first moved into our own place, it soon started to resemble a really nice frat house.

We'd stay up late watching videos and fall asleep in my bed. Without another grown-up in the house, I realized that it was easier to slide down to my children's level than lift them up to mine.

Slowly, my sense that I had a contagious disease lifted, and I found myself expanding my definition of what makes a family.

"It's crucial to explain to children that family is defined by people who love us and whom we feel really close to," says M.

Even if my husband and I didn't get along, we were both still deeply invested in the minutiae of running our family.

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